I recently saw the book by Lysa TerKeurst “It’s Not Supposed To Be This Way” on sale at the bookstore and decided to grab it for a friend of mine who was going through some unexpected trials. As I read more about it, the book encouraged you to read it as a ministry tool. So I did… and boy was it GREAT!!! So I passed the copy along and started an online Book study reading it with friends so we could grow together and glean from each other. What a difference a group makes! How blessed are we to have ways to connect with others in the ways technology allows today.
Anyway, this week’s topic is a great one, and it came at such a time in my own life that it hit a nerve… a good one, but a nerve all the more. We have this phrase that goes around and catches on that says, “God doesn’t give you more than you can handle.” It seems to be comforting, peaceful, and empowering… but it’s false! There are so many blog posts, facebook memes, articles available that will explain why this phrase is wrong, but Lysa seems to do it so well in her book.
I do not want to break any copyright laws… but will quote her book, see pages numbers so you can read for yourself.
Page 112 says, “God doesn’t expect us to handle this. He wants us to hand this over to Him. He doesn’t want us to rally more of our own strength. He wants us to rely solely on His strength. If we keep walking around thinking that God won’t give us more than we can handle, we set ourselves up to be suspicious of God. We know we are facing things that are too much for us. WE are bombarded with burdens. We are weighed down with wondering. And we are all trying to make sense of things that don’t make sense. Before we can move forward in a healthy way, we must first acknowledge the truth about our insufficiency.”
When you were created, you were created by a Creator that desires a relationship with you. So when hard times fall upon you, or are a result from the life around you, you NEVER have to go through it alone. We live in a society that desires to empower us and tell us all the answers are within… so what does the poor person do when that just isn’t correct? When they have hit such a low spot that they just simply cannot dig any deeper? I’ll tell you what happens… they fall into a deeper pit. They feel worse that they can’t help themselves. They feel worse that they have no strength… and many times turn to outside means to dull the pain they are feeling, which zaps their strength even more. And for many, eventually death seems to be the only way out. And a lot turn their backs against God because they believed the lie that God does not give them more than they can handle. So when they can’t handle it, they blame God.
So please for all things good… stop listening (and spreading) this lie. God is your helper. He is there to carry this burden. You were NEVER meant to carry it alone. It’s not that you are bad for not being able… it’s that you were never meant to. He didn’t create you to be a loner. He created you so He could have a relationship with you. He wants you to lean on Him. He wants you to speak to Him. He wants you to be led by Him. God is good and has good things in store for you. Hurt is not always a bad thing. God allows it to shape us through the experience. This is where faith comes in.
We must choose to trust God. This is the part where we surrender and say, “I can’t do this alone, I don’t NEED to do this alone. I NEED God.” Whether you’ve ever done this before or not doesn’t matter. This prayer, this initial prayer is the beginning of that relationship you need, “God, I need you. I can not do this life alone and on my own. I need a savior. I’ve made a mess of things by trying to do it all alone and I’m surrendering. I know you died on that cross FOR ME! I know you rose from that grave to be alive FOR ME! So I give up trying to live my life separated from you and I accept your invitation for help! I give this life to you, please help me!”
Page 119 of “It’s Not Supposed To Be This Way” by Lysa TerKeurst says, ” When we seek God, we see God. We don’t see His physical form, but we see Him at work and can start to see more of what He sees. Trust grows. If our hearts are willing to trust Him, He will entrust us more and more of His perspective. Matthew 5:8 teaches us, ‘”Blessed are the pure in heart, for they will see God.”‘ If we want to see Him in our circumstances and see His perspective, we must seek Him, His ways, and His Word. That’s where we find His good plans and promises for home and a future.”
It is impossible to trust Him for the future when we don’t have that relationship with Him. We will soon begin to misunderstand His plan when we don’t get to know the plan maker. We will see this daunting life ahead of us and we’ll stop believing that God created us to do this WITH him. A relationship with Him helps us sift through the lies and the truth. When you get to know someone you are more likely to discard distasteful gossip about them because in your heart and mind you KNOW the person. When we KNOW God we begin to love God and we can easily toss aside the things that are contrary to what we know and love.
I can’t put it any better than Lysa does in her book.
page 117 says, “God is who He says He is, and He will do what He says He will do. But to partner with Him in His work of transformation in our lives, we must seek Him with all our hearts. It’s our choice whether we stay stuck in our hurt or get renewed in our hearts.”
When we begin to believe that we have a Creator who created us with a relationship in mind, we begin to realize that all the trials and frustrations, and “not supposed to be this way” times are all known to Him, Jesus, as well. He isn’t surprised by any of them. And He’s willing to walk with you through them, teaching you, stretching you, building you up all along the way. He IS who he says He is! He WILL DO what He says He will do (never leave you nor forsake you!!!). So the question is yours to answer… Will you trust Him? Will you allow Him to lead you? Will you let Him take what you can not handle?
Admitting that you can’t do this on your own… is nothing more than saying, I’m not 10 feet tall. No one faults you for failing to measure in at 10 feet tall, you simply weren’t created that way. Acknowledging that you need saving is simply allowing the One who knows what He’s doing… DO.
Your circumstance won’t disappear (although God does have the power to do so if that’s what He has planned to do), but you can have help in the midst of the trial. You can trust that you WILL come out a better person as you trust and follow His leading.
If you need more help getting to know your Creator, please reach out. You can email me at email@example.com
You can also purchase Lysa’s book in many places, Amazon has it at a good price… and it’s WORTH IT!!!
And if you are desperate… I wouldn’t even mind mailing you my copy! Email me and I’ll work on shipping it out… You were created for more than trying (and most likely failing) life alone. Jesus is waiting to help you… will you take His hand?