Father’s Day

There is no blogging on a Sunday, so I couldn’t make my blog post about dads yesterday. Okay, so that’s the excuse at least. Maybe this will be a better one… I’m suffering a cold, I’m a total baby when it comes to colds, and to add all the other stuff onto the list while being a baby about a cold was too hard to do anyway, blogging wasn’t on my mind… but Father’s day was.

I got to preach the Sunday sermon yesterday. I was nervous… but not because of the audience, but because of my husband. He’s so good at it. He’s so knowledgeable, and really, I still care very much what he thinks about me! I used to travel to churches and preach to raise money for missions trips I took while in college. I loved it. So I assumed I’d love it again… and I did. I felt I preached what God wanted… but I was just so nervous. Even if Dave was in the nursery listening through a muffled speaker.

But I’d like to just copy some main points of the sermon for all of you wonderful Dads out there… Mom’s don’t forget to praise your husband for being a great daddy to your kids. This isn’t a small task (just like motherhood isn’t). Being a Dad is hard. Let him know on a regular basis just how wonderful he is.

1 Thes. 2:11 & 12 says
For you know that we dealt with each of you as a father deals with his own children, encouraging, comforting and urging you to live lives worthy of God, who calls you into his kingdom and glory.

Thanks dads for setting an example for your kids! They need to see you acting out godliness, not just telling them what to do.

Thanks dads for encouraging your kids. It’s amazing how far an encouraging word can take your child. Mom’s are really good at this, they can praise a child, encourage them, shower them with words of affirmation… but when Daddy does it, it will boost their children’s self-esteem to the moon!

Thanks Dads for comforting your children. When kids are younger it’s all about mommy but, as kids get older, they need those manly arms to wrap around them and comfort them. Whether it’s a son who didn’t make the football team, or lost a big basketball game, or a daughter who just got her heart-broken for the first time, a daddy’s comfort is just that… comfort.
When our kids are doing OK, they need encouragement. When they’re falling apart, they need comfort. In both instances kids need fathers who will come close to them.

Thanks dads for urging your children. The above scripture says to  urging your kids to live lives worthy of God. Challenge those kids. Thanks for making the world a better place by raising children who were urged to live a sold out life to Christ!

Ephesians 6:4 says “Fathers, do not exasperate your children; instead, bring them up in the training and instruction of the Lord.”

Dads, thanks for not exasperating your children. Children are called to honor their father and mother. When parents provoke them, make rules that make no sense, yell at them, abuse them, neglect them… you are embittering your children. Not only exasperating them, but also causing them to stumble by not making it easy for them to keep that 5th commandment.

Thank you, Dads for disciplining your children. There is a difference between disciplining and punishing… The purpose of punishment is to inflict penalty and focuses on the past. The purpose of discipline is to promote growth by looking to the future. Dads, your kids are looking for you to train them and love them by disciplining. It will make workplaces, churches, and the overall society an easier place to be when you discipline your kids now.

Thanks for training up your child. Not just teaching them to ride a bike, or fish, or do basic math… not just saying thank you, please, and you’re welcome… but training them in the ways of the Lord. Teaching them that God is the rightful king of the universe, He is ruler over the entire world, He is commander of all the armies of heaven, He is triumphant over sin and death and pain and Satan and hell, and He will one day establish His kingdom in righteousness! OUr kids need to know these things, and I thank you for teaching them!

Basically, Dads, Thanks for being a dad… For Acting fatherhood out, using DAD as a verb not just a noun. It’s biologically easy to become a father, but biblically challenging to actually FATHER your children.
Before you scoff and think this wasn’t for you… I want to encourage the dads out there that may be sitting there thinking that they aren’t worthy of the praise… Maybe you weren’t saved while raising your kids, or maybe you were but you don’t feel you did that great of a job…  Time is not over. You can always ask forgiveness, and begin to be that spiritual leader even now.  There are no perfect father’s, except our heavenly father.  We can only pray and strive to live by His example now.
Maybe you’re sitting there and thinking “My Dad doesn’t deserve the thanks”. Many of us have been hurt by our fathers.
 I sincerely hope that you will allow our Heavenly Father to meet that which is lacking in your life. May you experience the truth of Psalm 68:5: “A father to the fatherless, a defender of widows, is God in his holy dwelling.” As I stated before, we have a heavenly father who IS perfect and CAN love us the way we need to be loved.  If we will forgive, get rid of our bitterness, and allow God to lead us, we can still feel fulfilled.
And to the younger dads that may feel like this is too much of a task… just know you are not fathering alone. God will never leave you.

Be sure to understand this… You can not be the father God wants you to be, if you don’t know God.  If you don’t know this father I speak about, today is the day to meet him. He will enhance the type of father you want to be. He will forgive the father you once were. He will renew the man in you to be the father you are meant to be.
He will be the father you’ve been lacking.
We have a heavenly father that will not only cover our mistakes, past and present, but will also guide you as you father your children, and be that father that you’ve always craved. And for that we must say Thank you to the father of all fathers, God!

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THE Pastor’s wife…

This is my first post as THE Pastor’s wife. I’ve always been A Pastor’s wife, but this is the first time I’m THE Pastor’s wife… it’s already so different. I knew this time would come at some point so I tried to learn as much as I could from my previous pastors’ wives (one pastor, one wife each…). I’ve had 6 to learn from. Here’s some things I already know…

1. Don’t gossip. That has to be number one… but I just HAVE to talk about the ladies in my church. I won’t use names, I don’t want to embarrass them… but it just has to be said. The women in my church… They came into my home, when I wasn’t here… and cleaned! This house was SO spotless when we moved it. It was like they KNEW me down to my cleanest fiber! I have swept and mopped on my regular schedule, and the floors just don’t seem dirty. The basement was even clean! They are my kind of women (women who like a clean house!!!). I know I shouldn’t talk about people behind their backs… but there is this one lady in my church who looks at me and I can see to her heart… she WANTS to help me! She sees Ruby misbehaving, she sees Nate clinging to me for dear life, and she WANTS to help. When Ruby will go to her, she held her until she fell asleep… and when Nate fell asleep in my arms, she went and got me pillows and propped up my arms so I wouldn’t get tired during service… the NERVE!!! I know I shouldn’t gossip, but I just can’t hold in how wonderful these ladies are to me! It puts tears in my eyes. Oh, and this OTHER woman, she thinks about my kiddos, prepares them little snack baggies of treats, shows them her garden, lets them pull rhubarb right out of her garden, then have the gall to send us home with FRESH meat (steaks even!) What is going on with these women!!!??? Oh and I haven’t even told you about the lady that goes around town talking about us. She tells everyone she knows that there’s a new pastor in town. I keep hearing that she’s been talking so nice about us, posting on her facebook that she’s so happy to have a new pastor. If she can gossip, I can too, right!?

So, I know the number one rule is no gossip, but I can’t hold in just how grateful I am already. its been 2 full weeks today, and I’m sure you could say we are in the in honeymoon stage of things, but if you knew these women, this town, this church… you’d believe like I do that this was a GREAT move for us. And that the people are just so giving, and welcoming, and fun to be around.

*Note to you… support your Pastor’s wife. They will feel SO blessed by that phone call, that little act of kindness, that word of encouragement… even if it is “I am sure being a pastor’s wife is very difficult, if you need anything, let me know” (It meant a lot to me when the ladies said it to me).

2. Another thing I’ve learned from my previous pastors’ wives is to always appear happy to be there, wherever there may be… well, I appear that way, because I FEEL that way! And I am praying earnestly that God will continue to grow these relationships and keep us all happy with the wonderful things He is doing through St. James Assembly!

**Note to you… make the places you are a place people are happy to be. If your going to back bite, be mean, talk bad about your pastor’s wife behind her back, the facade she puts on to appear happy in your presence will appear fake… only because of the severe hurt she has behind that facade. (this goes for any other human being, not just pastor’s wife). Just love!!! And the “appearance” will be a heartfelt reaction!

There are many other lessons I’ve learned along the way, I’ve had some really great first ladies to learn from, so keep checking back as I try to use this blog to inspire, share my heart, and document all that God is doing through this Pastor’s Wife’s Life!

Oh, and don’t forget to visit and Hear it from Pastor Dave  (I  hear he’s REALLY pretty wonderful) And visit the NEW St. James Assembly website!

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